“We’re not naturally wired for fear. We learned it.” (Laura L. Fine, The Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing)
I recently learned about Laura L. Fine and The Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing through a fellow yogi, Isabelle Randolph, in my 200-hr RYT certification program at Yoga Salt in Marina del Rey. I have noticed the calm in Isabelle and the gentle healing nature of how she interacts with others in the program and especially when we practiced taking our classmates through a savasana. She engaged in it like no other in the studio, as she sweetly took out her essential oils and began to walk her partner through a meditation, adjustment and massage in a manner that only they were privy too, just like a seasoned professional. It was inspiring. We began to talk one day about her experiences in traveling the world and coming to practice in the healing arts. And, Lionheart is where she is currently going through her training. Through Isabelle, Laura Fine was kind enough to share some words of wisdom with us about the importance of the practice of telling the truth. She states earnestly that, “We’re not naturally wired for fear. We learned it.” You can learn to rewire your emotional responses by tolerating and regulating your emotions at her 2-hour workshop this coming Saturday, March 7th from 10:00 AM – 12:00 PM at the Studio City location, entitled The Essential Keys to Energy Healing. Register for free in advance or pay $49 at the door. You just might be amazed at what profound and positive shifts might occur within you by taking in her wisdom.
Practice Telling the Truth
By Laura L. Fine
I hate phoniness in myself and I hate it in others…and when I forget myself I do it and I see it. Aaaaahhhh…why?
Not long ago while on an out of town visit, I told my friend…
“I have a dinner appointment and have to leave in ten minutes.” I didn’t have a dinner appointment, I just couldn’t tolerate his complaints.
Why did I lie? I know better! I teach this stuff! My habit is to rationalize these white lies and tell myself it’s to protect hurting his feelings. In actuality, the reverse is true. When I stop and take time to reflect on my behavior, I did it to protect my feelings, specific feelings I can scarcely tolerate.
One of the most common white lie is, “I’m not feeling well, “I need to cancel our date.” We tell ourselves we lie to avoid hurting that person’s feelings. The truth is this lie is told to avoid my feeling my friend’s anger and disappointment.
Tolerating his reaction while staying in connection is one of our greatest emotional challenges. Text messaging, voice messaging, facebook’ing, phone calls, don’t require face to face eye contact, unfortunate reinforcement for avoiding intimacy.
Much of our communication is superficial. We disguise our authentic feelings, even from ourselves. How? Emotional over-eating, addiction, computer games, movies, all serve as coping mechanisms to mask true feelings. Masked feelings transmute into anxiety, a distorted expression authentic emotions such as sadness, powerlessness, loneliness, feelings our culture silently judges as weak. These most vulnerable feelings, when shared, intimately connect us to others.
The most successful, powerful and pleasurable people I enjoy being around are fearlessly authentic. I feel safe in their company, free and often emotionally uncomfortable. Yet I prefer that discomfort because it’s honest!
To be of greatest possible service to others when I get scared, requires me to realize that when I want to tell a ‘white lie’ it’s because I’m withholding the truth of my feelings. Once I learn to tolerate my feelings, speaking out is easy – remarkable.
By the way, I later went back to my friend and apologized. And he acknowledged his complaining negative behavior. We both sighed and smiled. I felt brave and good about my strength for honesty.
Laura Fine is director of Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing, a professional certification program with branches in Los Angeles and Austin Texas, that teaches people to heal themselves, facilitate healing for others and build a career as a certified Transpersonal Energy Healing Counselor. Laura has trained thousands of students nationwide and practiced an Energy Healing Therapist and teacher for over 30 years. She has two Masters Degrees, one in Marriage and Family Therapy and a second Masters of Arts Degree. She is author of 4 books including The Exceptional Actor, Taming the Restless Mind and Laura’s New Heart: A Holistic Healer’s Journey Through A Heart Transplant, and an ebook course, The Exceptional Therapist, A Body/Mind Approach to Therapy. Laura is a survivor of a life threatening illness and a grateful heart transplant recipient. She has a passion for taking clients deep into the core of their being where true healing happens.